I’m in LOVE with our new family photos and can’t believe that its almost been a month since we had them taken by Kurtis Bowersock. I can’t say enough good things about him. And if you are interested in an amazing investment then you should check them out. http://www.bowersockphoto.com/ So here are a couple shots from the day, I wish I could share them all because I’m that much in love with them. We headed over to Garfield Park and around Fountain Square for this chilly morning.
Tomorrow marks the
beginning of our kitchen makeover. We have been planning and thinking this over probably as long as we have lived in this house (2.5 yrs) but haven’t gotten around to getting it done. We have decided to go with an IKEA kitchen and have visited twice to design the layout. So this is the breakdown of hopefully just the to do list and not my sanity (with two kids and no kitchen) of how our kitchen is going to happen.
clear out kitchen
setup temporary kitchen
block off kitchen to the Babes
tear out cabinets, counters and floor
•jack up floor and insulate
•paint walls and ceiling
•install cabinets and sink
•replace window treatments
•upgrade and beautify pantry
•buy new microwave and fridge
•remove a section of the wall opening the room to the dining room
•make desk area
I think that is it but I’m sure there is something I’m forgetting on my list. So here is to hopefully around two weeks of chaos. Be sure to check back for the before and after photos and a rundown on the craziness that I am sure will take place!
So in the week that we have started our work on the kitchen we have moved everything out, set up a temporary kitchen and removed all the cabinets and flooring in the kitchen. We ran into a few more problems than what we had expected but with this house it happens. So now we just need to get everything from IKEA and get down to the fun stuff.
“What Would I Do If I Just Stopped Worrying That I Would Ruin My Kid Right Here and Now?”
I started this post at the beginning of the month and just now remembered that it was in my drafts. I do this often, actually. When I think of something or when something is weighing on me me I begin a post and then when I have the time to write I work on it.
I have been spending most of my time reading lately. I love love love to read. My neck and arthritis would even tell you how much I love to read. The problem with me reading is that I get sucked into a book and only come up to breathe when I am finished. This particular book I picked up read and then put down forgot about it and then picked it back up. It’s not that I didn’t find it interesting or that I couldn’t relate; it was that I already knew most of what the book was saying that it wasn’t a radically new concept to me. I think I have my degree to thank for done of the knowledge I have the rest would be from my upbringing.
Speaking of upbringing I am very fortunate to have had so many experiences and real world circumstances that most things I know about and am able to do. I’m also thankful that my husband is the same way. Together we are able to tackle most things which I take for granted until I find someone that doesn’t know how.
So back to the book: Free-Range Kids: Giving Our Children the Freedom We Had Without Going Nuts with Worry
Book by Lenore Skenazy talks about the dangers and supposed “dangers” that are kids are faced with everyday and how “most” parents handle them. It gives statistics of crimes and also give “baby” steps and “free range” steps that patents can take to get better at the different commandments throughout the book.
Though I do agree with most of the book and I feel that we do most of these things with our two-year old daughter I have to say that she is two and a two-year old will sometimes act like a monkey 🙂 I also believe that it really depends on the child when it is appropriate to give them more freedom. I know done children that ate laid back and can be trusted not to leave a yard and then there is my daughter who would walk down the block by herself and not think twice if I wasn’t with her.
My favorite chapter started out with the title of this post. And I think that this can apply to all areas in parenting. I think in this time in our history parenting has really hit the forefront if conversation. I’m not saying that it wasn’t there before but I feel that some are asserting their thoughts and beliefs about what is right and wrong a lot more then what I saw before. I have wrote about parenting styles before so I don’t need to go into detail today.
I also have a hard time parting myself from some of my schooling as an Early Childhood Education major. It seems like more and more I see Montessori, Piaget, and Waldorf are showing themselves in this day and age. There is not one day that I can’t hop onto Pinterest and see a pin involving activities by one of them. So around here you will probably hear about one of them and what we are doing but I don’t feel like one way should have to define who I am as a parent, so what does that make me? Eclectic, a borrower, or a little bit of mush.
I think I’ve come to realize that what I once thought was the never ending chores were life-skills that made me a better person. Also that instead of looking at them as chores I can see them as those things for my children. So when I’m sweeping they can be sweeping (with little brooms) or when I’m doing dishes they can help as well. It’s not a “job” it’s just something we do together as a family.
Is yourself, sometimes.
Argh ugh! It’s taken me 2 years and almost 4 months to completely grasp this. That’s how long my babes have been living outside the womb btw. Here I am again at home with two sleeping babes while the Hubs is out hanging with our friends celebrating a birthday. I doubt I can count on both my fingers and toes how many times its been lopsided like this.
Ever since I became pregnant and had the first, things have been different. We decided I wasn’t going back to work and not that didn’t think that was great until the first time I wanted to buy something and well I wasn’t making any money so should I buy it or should I ask… Blah blah blah. Then there are the times when I want to take a class or meet up with friends without kids and even though I’m with them all day I still have to work around his schedule.
But can I really push all the blame onto him for me being the one stuck at home, probably not but I wanted to tonight. And that’s when I realized that maybe I need to do something about some me time. Being with the kids all day the only me time I have is my nightly shower, that’s pretty pathetic. But I crave time with my husband at night and so then I don’t go do anything and I end up with the kids still. I sometimes wonder if he ever has pause about the things he goes out to do after only having a couple hours to spend with the kids after work. I suppose that is a question for him.
So what’s the point of all this? Well I finally figured out that maybe some me time is ok. Better yet that it is essential for me and my health. It’s time for me to take action for my own time and insist that I get a little “freedom” here and there.
Just another random rant in the middle of the night 🙂
When I wrote about parenting “styles” I also had in mind of how as we as individuals compare and contrast everything. From different outfits to the weather and everything in between. But when I became a teacher I noticed that kids were compared more than anything else. Everything felt like a competition and there was always an undercurrent of winning because losing was definitely was out of the question.
So when I became a mother I knew that “evil” was out there lurking in our hearts and minds telling us to one up a person or to see where our child is measuring up with the pack. Of course not taking into account the fact that no two people are alike in their growth, we are all zebras. But that didn’t stop me from wondering what that other child was up to or reading my shelf of development books to see what my kid should be doing or subscribing to different websites that send a weekly/monthly email about what my kid should be doing. It all seems a bit overwhelming. Not to mention there are several different APPS out there that can bring it straight to your phone and allow you to track their progress.
I would read and check and sometimes
push encourage my child to be moving in the direction of the next milestone and then I would begin to worry when I didn’t see it happening when it “should”. I was a closet basket case… to the outside world I had a great child and I would really emphasize on all her accomplishments and try to steer clear of what she couldn’t do. I would come home and encourage and talk to the Hubs about what we could do to get her to learn something quicker and now so that she wouldn’t be behind.
I was beginning without my knowing to wish away her childhood to not let her just be and be in the moment because I wanted more from her…
True but sad story and now with the Little Man I think back to what Archer was doing at his age and I have started to catch myself comparing them and so I knew I needed to write it down. The only way I was going to get myself to realize what I was doing was to write it so that myself and others could see my faults. It has really been weighing heavily on my mind since July and now that I have really thought of it (and with the knowledge of knowing this is our last kid) I have settled in my thoughts to know he will grow and do and accomplish in his own time. Plus the same thing goes for her. There is still time to step back and just let her be. Let her enjoy her childhood, explore on her own terms and to show me who she is without me interfering.
The Lil Man of the day. Griffin was baptized July 27, 2013 after the 5:30 pm mass. It was a great evening at St. John the Evangelist and we even had some background music as we shared a dinner in the courtyard (courtesy of NUVO on Georgia). WARNING: this post is picture heavy.
And finally some shots of us with his grandparents and some family pictures. All in all it was a beautiful evening with family. The kids were starving and getting cranky, the music was blaring, and it was chilly for a July evening. 🙂
I think each time we get outside and wander into our garden we find some new creature for the Babe to explore. During this trip we found this “funky” caterpillar. As much as we like creatures some just can’t have a home in our garden especially on our tomato plants. Here are a few shots of the beauty: